Source: Complex.com

But how far away should you be standing when you open? I’m only talking about stationary girls here, moving sets are a completely different beast.

The best range I’ve found is around 5 feet or 1.5 meters for the rest of the world.

The only other exception to this is if she has headphones on. You’re going to have to get a bit closer to her so she notices your presence, looks at you, and you can motion for her to take them off.

Women are much more conscious of their personal space during the day and you imposing on it can make them either feel nervous or see you as rude.

So I start from about 5 feet away, project my voice a bit when I say “Hey” so she looks at me, deliver the rest of my opener, introduce myself, and put out my hand to shake hers.

Now that you have your hand out to shake hers you can take a step forward and she usually will as well and you have now closed the 5 foot gap in between you two. The handshake acts as an excuse to get you two closer together.

You can easily tell if she’s not comfortable being that close to you after that handshake. If she’s not comfortable she’s going to take a step back. Let her take the step away, and lock in. As the interaction progresses you’ll notice how she’ll come closer and close the gap once she becomes comfortable talking to you.

The whole key to day game is respecting social boundaries. If you can do that and carry on a normal conversation you can do day game.

There are three indirect openers that I use at the grocery store. All of them work and have been field tested. But first lets talk about when and what grocery stores to go to.

The time frame to go is Monday – Friday from 6pm – 8pm and Sunday from about 12 – 7. Basically after the 9 to 5ers get out of work during the week and Sunday because it’s usually better than a mall on a Sunday afternoon. Saturday is good too but not nearly as good as a mall.

If you have a Trader Joe’s or a Whole Foods near you then go there. Other grocery stores are alright, Whole Foods is a jackpot.

The “Can you cook this?” Opener

You go into any isle with your cart and grab a random thing off the shelf within earshot of the woman you want to open.

PUA: Can you cook this?
HB: Yes/No
PUA: If yes: Awesome you’re my new personal chef!
PUA: If No: What! You can’t cook Hamburger Helper! Where did you go to culinary school again? You’re fired as my personal chef.

And you roleplay about her being your personal chef for a minute or two. Then you ask her what else is left on her list.

NO WOMAN HAS EVER HAD A LIST

PUA: WHAT! You don’t have a list! You’re going to leave here with Twinkies and Ramen Noodles. You need to shop with me so I can show you why having a list is better.

And you shop together. You can make it fun by saying things like “Ok I’m going to frozen food, you need fruit, let’s meet in the cereal isle in 5!”

And you can be a gentleman at the end and carry her stuff to her car, exchange numbers.

It’s really cool because shopping together is like having a built in instant date.

The “I’ll Trade You” Opener

This is my personal favorite opener of all time.

You push your cart right next to or in front of hers. You grab something out of yours, preferably junk food, and reach into her cart and grab something healthy.

She’s going to be looking at you like WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU DOING!

PUA: Ok, I’ll trade you my Cool Ranch Doritos for your oranges.

They’ll laugh really hard.

Then you do the same list transition as above and shop together.

The “Are You Following Me?” Opener

This one can really be used in any line. It’s not my favorite but it works.

You’re standing in line with with a cute woman behind you. You look back and make sure she realizes you’re looking back.

You wait about 30 seconds and look back again and give her a funny look. She’ll look a little confused and might return your funny look.

PUA: Are you following me? -smile-

They’ll laugh and it’s a great way to spend your time in line.

Now get out there and meet some women.

Oh, and if you go to the grocery store just to open women put all the food back where you found it. It doesn’t make you alpha to leave a cart full of food for the kid making minimum wage to put back on the shelf.

So if a girl gives you a boyfriend objection at a bar or club it probably isn’t true and if it is most likely it doesn’t matter. Yes people cheat and it sucks but it’s something you’re just going to have to learn to live with. I know I wouldn’t be faithful to one person so I don’t have have a girlfriend and every woman in my life knows that we’re casual. I believe this is the best way for me to live my life because I don’t want to intentionally hurt someone who cares about me. I’ve been on the receiving end and it isn’t fun.

But back to boyfriend objections. If you get one at night there are a couple of ways you can deal with it.

The AFC way would be to acknowledge what she said, apologize for talking to her, and offer to buy her and her 5 girlfriends drinks to make up for it.

The cocky way to is to tell her something like “Cool, you’ll have something to do when I’m not around” or “Cool, so do all my all my girlfriends” etc, whatever, you get the idea.

Finally you can just ignore it. Don’t even acknowledge that anything was about boyfriends was said and continue talking as normal.

But what about day game?

During the day if you approach a girl in a bookstore or coffee shop and say something along the lines of “I wanted to come meet you” and she gives you a boyfriend objection it means one of two things.

1. This is her polite way of saying no thanks. For one reason or another she isn’t interested in getting hit on by you today and she’s sending you on your way as nicely as she can. She might smile a little bit and will be polite but you’ll be able to tell she’s not interested.

You won’t get real negative reactions during the day. It’s not socially acceptable for her to be a bitch and say “fuck off” during the day like it is at a night club. As long as you socially violate her she won’t do it back to you.

When you go direct for day game you’re giving her all of about 15 seconds to decide whether or not she’s interested in you. Because of the this the better your delivery, eye contact, body language, way you dress, and any natural good looks you might have the better her reaction is going to be.

The best advice about pickup I ever got I got from Sinn. He said “Always leave the house looking your best.” He says this because you run into women at the most random times so always be prepared and you won’t make excuses like “I’m not dressed my best” as the reason for not opening. Also you should take pride in how you look and always present that best self image.

Since he told that over a year ago there has only been one day that I haven’t left my house looking my best and ready to approach. I had gotten my wisdom teeth out a few days before and was on my way to get a haircut. So before I left I said “Fuck it, I feel like shit and I’m going to get a haircut. I’m not doing my hair.” and I threw on an old sweat shirt.

As soon as I got on the subway I saw her. One of the only 10s I’ve ever seen. I realized I looked like shit but I opened anyways… The look she gave me was somewhere between disgust and amusement…

2. She has a boyfriend and she doesn’t want to cheat on him. Her response will be something like “OMG, that’s really flattering but I have a boyfriend.” She’ll be very warm and friendly, all smiles, and you probably just made her day. But she has a B/F and is faithful.

With the first reaction you can try and plow but it’s fruitless. She’s made up her mind and you’re not likely to convince her otherwise.

With the second reaction you can plow, she will talk to you, and give you her number. You can make her a friend, she’ll introduce you to her friends who don’t have boyfriends and everyone is happy. Then about 2 months later she’ll break up with her boyfriend, she’s been keeping you around as plan B, you’ve been doing the same thing to her, one thing leads to another, you get the idea.

Hell it may even happen sooner, she may not be thinking about cheating on her boyfriend at 12:30 on a Sunday afternoon but her feeling could be completely different on a Thursday at 11PM.

Hope that helps guys.

And as always feel free to hit me up with your questions!

Be easy.

Today I’m dying of plague and call out of work, but I have a hair appointment later in the day and don’t want to cancel because it’s a super bitch to make new one. I roll out of bed, don’t shower, don’t do my hair, put on a pair of jeans and a wrinkled tee from off my floor, and to top off this great look I put an over sized hoodie on. I looked like a super scrub. But what do I care right? I’m dying of plague and don’t want to open anyways… wrong.

I’m waiting for the train and I see her, physically she’s everything I look for in a girl; short(around 5′ nothing), tan, perfect ass, cute tits, awesome hair, a bunch of piercings in her ears, and a lip ring. She was a rock chick who didn’t lose any of her femininity.

And then there’s me looking like a complete chode.

We make eye contact and I smile. She gives me one look up and down, back turns me, and pulls out her phone and calls someone. Complete and total blow out. The one day I leave the house looking like shit I see a 10. I learned that lesson the hard way, hope you guys don’t have to.