Back in my college days my friends and I would joke that everything a woman says before the word ‘but’ was a lie.

I really like you, but…
You’re a great guy, but…

Now that I’m older and wiser I realize that the guys that got those blow offs were needy and weak.

So, you’re saying, being the jerk is subpar??

this is fucking me upp in the head dude..I hate being friendly and being treated like that.

Its a matter of getting my ass out there and getting my ass beating up to get good at this…
I think its more to success when you go out and then comeback to implement the details of the fuck up to make it work.

thanks for the reminder why I got into this.

Perhaps … but I don’t think guys should abandon their “nice” and friendly aspects … they just need to become centered and then add in a heaping spoonful of “bad boy” like in this post:

http://awakeningfromthedream.blogspot.com/2009/02/why-integrating-shadow-self-makes-us.html

xoxo,
Erika

There is one thing that rarely gets mentioned by pua folks. Familiarity.

I have gotten a lot of girls from my social circle and we were friends first.

Now maybe somewhere a long the line they liked my humor or my looks, but ultimately we were friends first due to familiarity and that makes them feel safe.

So sometimes friends can become more, in fact I see it around all the time.