I can’t really speak to comparisons between cities since my dating life has been exclusively in NYC, but don’t discount the “visitor effect” in your perceptions. I have traveled a lot and often find myself drooling over the hotties when visiting other cities (except Boston, no offense), even a place like D.C., because I have more free time and so day-walk and bar-hop more than I do here (creating the illusion that hotties are abundant in the new city), and a grass-is-greener mentality creeps in such that I boost the value of the girls I see and interact with. Most of all, I have much more one-night stand success when visiting, since being somewhere not home drops inhibitions, makes it easy to talk to people (I’m visiting, do you know x?), frees you from day-to-day anxieties, frees you from normal socializing and bonding with your circles (fun but not always conducive to sexual success), and signals to women that one night is all they can have (no boyfriend fantasies, which I get all the time here, even when I tell them I have a girlfriend). I’ll be interested to see if the halo effect remains for you after a long spell here — the expenses and running around of a social life can grind you down. That said, it is the best city anywhere to “reset” each day and each weekend — even taking the same train at the same time, or hitting the usual haunts on the weekend, I know I’ll have an entirely new set of people to interact with, no repeats, no bad reputation… anonymity in all its glory.

Flash: Points taken. Although at this point I’ve visited NYC 10-12 times and spend probably close to a month there each year in total. I’ve also sarged in probably a dozen other major cities, so I feel like I’m pretty objective about the quality of the talent these days.

Good to know — I will stay put!

Wow thats awesome man… I just moved from nyc

great to know you are there coaching