This is cool. As the only instructor out there that is really admitting that different strategies work for different people your taking it to the next level and offering advice that inst coming with one size fits all marketing. (no pun intended)

Most “systems” out there are quite robust but at the same time pickup is supposed to be efficient. This dichotomy creates a signal to noise ratio that after beating AA is the top reason guys have difficulty learning pickup. With all this information out there from years of – somewhat outdated – study into dating science it should be easy, but its not.

There are definitely more field than height where this personalized info would be valuable.

Eric

The bad news for us shorter, not so hot guys:

Pick-up isn’t done in a vacuum. Any desirable girl is choosing between you and the other dozen guys who are trying to get her at the same time as you.

D’Angelo has a point that attraction isn’t a choice. But even if it’s not a choice, it’s still pretty predictable. All other things being equal, from the group of suitors she WILL pick the guy who’s taller, stronger and better-looking than the guys who are shorter, fatter and uglier.

Saying that her preference for the taller, stronger, better-looking guy is a proxy for her real desire for dominance and health is a platitude to make less genetically-favored guys feel better. The reality is that if they’re choosing among otherwise equal guys, just about every girl prefers the taller, stronger, better-looking guy, dominance be damned.

The reason height and looks is such an issue for lots of us is because you can only play with the hand you were dealt. If you’re 5′5″ and ugly, cool haircuts and intense gym workouts can only go so far. You’re always gonna be short and ugly, and tall, good-looking guys who whine about “being threatening to girls” will never know what a real disadvantage is. Life ain’t fair.

The good news:

Be happy we’re guys.

There’s no getting around height. All other things being equal, basically every girl will prefer a guy who’s 6′ to a guy who’s 5′5″. But in contrast to guys, girls are totally different in their preferences about looks. I’ve met girls who think Brad Pitt isn’t good-looking, girls that hate Zack Efron, girls that think Johnny Depp is gross. On the other hand, find me one guy in the world that honestly would not kill to go out with Jessica Alba or Giselle Bundchen.

And in contrast to guys, girls don’t only care about a guy’s physical qualities. They really mean it when they say that they also value a guy’s personality, sense of humor, intelligence, and charm. And there are girls who value a guy’s money, clothes, lifestyle. These are all things that we can work on and get, despite our genetic bad luck.

I may be short and not-so-hot, but this means I’ve still got a chance to get a desirable girl. But harsh as it to say it, a girl who’s short, ugly and has sagging breasts has got no chance to get a great guy, no matter how great her personality is. That’s why they call it a “fat girl personality”.

So for us shorter, not-so-hot guys, there are lots of other ways to get the girl. Sure, it’d be a lot easier to also be tall or good-looking. But if you’re as funny and famous and rich as Jack Black, you can get away with being short, ugly, fat and smelly and still get hot girls. If you’re as rich as Trump, you can get away with being old, flabby and wearing a comb-over carpet on your head and still get hot girls.

And if you’re just one of us normal shorter, not-so-hot guys, you better not be fat, better take showers, and damn well shouldn’t wear a toupe, but if your personality, sense of humor and outer game skills are good enough, you can still get the hotties. Yeah, it sucks we have to work harder, and yeah, our game will take longer since we have to overcome built-in bias against us and we don’t have the automatic attraction built in like taller, good-looking fucks. Those good-looking, taller fucks will never know what we face. And repeating Community platitudes that looks don’t matter just tries to hide us from the the reality that despite all the work we do and all the “skills” we have, we’re still gonna see lots of cases where some tall, good-looking fuck with no skills, no charm, no personality gets a girl we want only because of his genetic advantages.

But we can either use our genetic bad luck as an excuse and have miserable lives, or we can deal with it, work as hard as possible and succeed in spite of the shitty hand we were dealt.

I do totally agree with that post, it’s so true. I am nearly 6.36 feet tall, so if I am agressiv with girls, they are TOTALLY scared, thats why my friend who is like 5.5 foot tall is much more agressiv and it works out for him better than it does for me. If I am like a bit more “nice” than I am usually it works out best.

@Anonymous – You’re 100% right. But you’re right for the exact reason I said in the post.

Yes, ALL THINGS BEING EQUAL, taller, good-looking guys will always generate more attraction. Why? Because their physique already sub-communicates more dominance than others.

That’s where the advantage is.

And yes, I would take the “disadvantage” of coming off threatening to girls any day over being short. I don’t envy you shorter guys. And I have mountains of respect for the guys that I meet who are 5′5″ and pull just as much ass as I do.

@ Anonymous

If you are so worried about being rejected by girls in favor of better looking taller dudes why dont you try daygame where there is no competition from other guys and the girls are hotter.

Just my .02

Eric

Great post.

No matter how you slice it – taller guys will have a greater probability to get girls. Witness a club atmosphere. Me at 5′7″ gets drowned out in the midst of 6ft guys and women wearing 4″ heels putting many over 5′10″ if not more….I was in a club this weekend and tried to game but could not even get thru to talk because I was drowned out.

I still state my case – if you are a halfway decent looking guy at 6ft or more, no hangups, drug free,personable and if presented with pickup material and it does not work you – there really is no excuse not to eventually land a hot girl…

@Anonymous: I still state my case – if you are a halfway decent looking guy at 5′7″, no hangups, drug free,personable and if presented with pickup material and it does not work you – there really is no excuse not to eventually land a hot girl…

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