Comments on: Mailbag: 7/10/09 http://www.entropypua.com/blog/mailbag-71009 Sarge Smarter, Not Harder Thu, 30 Sep 2010 12:49:27 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 By: Leo http://www.entropypua.com/blog/mailbag-71009/comment-page-1#comment-844 Leo Sun, 12 Jul 2009 04:18:57 +0000 http://www.entropypua.com/blog/?p=1084#comment-844 Mark, by "closing" you mean having sex, or any kind of foreplay? I've never had a SNL, the closest I've been to that is a BJ that I get from a woman in my car after talking to her for two hours in a party. But the logistics were really poor to have sex. Mark, by “closing” you mean having sex, or any kind of foreplay? I’ve never had a SNL, the closest I’ve been to that is a BJ that I get from a woman in my car after talking to her for two hours in a party. But the logistics were really poor to have sex.

]]> By: Leo http://www.entropypua.com/blog/mailbag-71009/comment-page-1#comment-843 Leo Sun, 12 Jul 2009 04:15:52 +0000 http://www.entropypua.com/blog/?p=1084#comment-843 "Yes, that’s 90+% on first dates. Unless you’re older (35 and up)" Mark, explain yourself, please! WTF? “Yes, that’s 90+% on first dates. Unless you’re older (35 and up)”

Mark, explain yourself, please! WTF?

]]> By: zorgon http://www.entropypua.com/blog/mailbag-71009/comment-page-1#comment-842 zorgon Sun, 12 Jul 2009 01:22:53 +0000 http://www.entropypua.com/blog/?p=1084#comment-842 I find the "90+% on first dates" comment a little weird. I'm 27. I won't claim to be super great, but this just seems... frankly... implausible? Unless your first date always consists of inviting the girl directly over to your place (in which case you're passing up opportunities with girls who are too conservative to do that), then I'd think that at least 10% of the time, probably much more, you simply will *not* be able to get her back to your place (or hers). Just simple logistics: people have jobs, people get tired, etc. Or girls who have hard rules that they'll *never* go back to a guy's place on the first date. Or whatever. If the date location isn't within walking distance, then I'd expect the odds to fall off rapidly. (The worst case being where you both drove a decent distance and parked your cars separately.) Hell, at least 10% of the time I'll probably decide that *I'm* not interested. I've found this blog to be fairly honest in the past about avoiding overblown PUA hype ("any man can sleep with the woman of his dreams, even if he's a 400-pound WoW addict living in his parents' basement!"), so I'd love to hear elaboration on this point. Also, this has been a sticking point of mine; I've gotten more notches from SNLs than from actual dates. When I "date" a girl it seems like things tend to just fizzle out, even when there was obvious mutual attraction early on. I find the “90+% on first dates” comment a little weird. I’m 27. I won’t claim to be super great, but this just seems… frankly… implausible? Unless your first date always consists of inviting the girl directly over to your place (in which case you’re passing up opportunities with girls who are too conservative to do that), then I’d think that at least 10% of the time, probably much more, you simply will *not* be able to get her back to your place (or hers). Just simple logistics: people have jobs, people get tired, etc. Or girls who have hard rules that they’ll *never* go back to a guy’s place on the first date. Or whatever. If the date location isn’t within walking distance, then I’d expect the odds to fall off rapidly. (The worst case being where you both drove a decent distance and parked your cars separately.)

Hell, at least 10% of the time I’ll probably decide that *I’m* not interested.

I’ve found this blog to be fairly honest in the past about avoiding overblown PUA hype (”any man can sleep with the woman of his dreams, even if he’s a 400-pound WoW addict living in his parents’ basement!”), so I’d love to hear elaboration on this point. Also, this has been a sticking point of mine; I’ve gotten more notches from SNLs than from actual dates. When I “date” a girl it seems like things tend to just fizzle out, even when there was obvious mutual attraction early on.

]]> By: Maximus http://www.entropypua.com/blog/mailbag-71009/comment-page-1#comment-841 Maximus Sat, 11 Jul 2009 15:28:19 +0000 http://www.entropypua.com/blog/?p=1084#comment-841 "Yes, that’s 90+% on first dates. Unless you’re older (35 and up), I’d say you should be closing consistently at this rate" Mark, I am 37 and I was wondering if you may have suggestions for "older guys" to improve this rate, beside the obvious like improving looks, getting in shape, etc “Yes, that’s 90+% on first dates. Unless you’re older (35 and up), I’d say you should be closing consistently at this rate”

Mark,
I am 37 and I was wondering if you may have suggestions for “older guys” to improve this rate, beside the obvious like improving looks, getting in shape, etc

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