The immortal question: how to approach girls. One of the biggest concerns and fears we see out there with guys is the fear of approaching an extremely attractive woman. In fact, a great deal of our my coaching revolves around getting guys up to speed with approaching women.

Although no advice can replace doing it yourself, this can help you get started.

The thing about approaching is most guys do the complete opposite of what they should do. Most guys think about it logically and say, “Well, I should spend some time and figure out what I’m going to say first.”

This is the WORST thing you can do when approaching a woman.

What happens is you end up thinking and thinking, getting more worried and nervous, until the pressure becomes too much and you start making excuses NOT to approach her. Nod your head if you’ve experienced this before. You need to take care of all of the thinking BEFOREHAND. It’s like thinking about how you’re going to shoot a three-pointer in the middle of a game, it’s definitely going to miss.

When guys think too much about what they’re going to say or how they’re going to say it, they end up stalling, hesitating and getting REALLY nervous. This is called approach anxiety, and just about every guy suffers from it.

Whether you know exactly what you’re going to say or not, the second you see an attractive girl, start walking towards her. Once you’re in front of her, say the first thing that comes to mind or a pre-planned line you have. If you’re in front of her and you STILL don’t know what you’re going to say, “Hi, I’m John Doe. I wanted to come meet you,” rarely ever fails.

The importance with approaching is to actually DO IT. Once you actually start going through the motions and actions of approaching beautiful women and starting conversations, your mind will begin to naturally come up with things to say.

Too many guys get so hung up on “the perfect thing to say” that they never actually get out there and do it.

What these guys don’t understand is the truth about approaching is that WHAT YOU SAY isn’t half as important as HOW YOU SAY IT. Generally, it takes guys a lot of experience to begin to figure this out.

So focus on your body language, your delivery and your tonality. A simple, “Hello” will suffice to begin 90% of your conversations. Now, you just need to worry about what to say next.