Comments on: Dealing With Jealousy http://www.entropypua.com/blog/dealing-with-jealousy Sarge Smarter, Not Harder Sun, 05 Sep 2010 06:57:44 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 By: Erika http://www.entropypua.com/blog/dealing-with-jealousy/comment-page-1#comment-719 Erika Tue, 19 May 2009 15:31:51 +0000 http://www.entropypua.com/blog/?p=983#comment-719 There's a big difference between "possession" and having accountability/trust within the context of emotional libertarianism or polyamory. Jealousy is an emotion I don't feel very often anymore, and I especially no longer experience any dislike of other women. It doesn't really matter to me how many other women a man I'm with loves. I love women, too, and I can feel love for them through him and with him. It does matter to me a great deal though to have accountability and trust and follow-through -- those things are the very foundation of a relationship. There’s a big difference between “possession” and having accountability/trust within the context of emotional libertarianism or polyamory. Jealousy is an emotion I don’t feel very often anymore, and I especially no longer experience any dislike of other women. It doesn’t really matter to me how many other women a man I’m with loves. I love women, too, and I can feel love for them through him and with him. It does matter to me a great deal though to have accountability and trust and follow-through — those things are the very foundation of a relationship.

]]> By: onesoul http://www.entropypua.com/blog/dealing-with-jealousy/comment-page-1#comment-699 onesoul Wed, 13 May 2009 05:07:31 +0000 http://www.entropypua.com/blog/?p=983#comment-699 Dead on.. as always! Preach it brotha! Dead on.. as always! Preach it brotha!

]]> By: Adonis http://www.entropypua.com/blog/dealing-with-jealousy/comment-page-1#comment-698 Adonis Tue, 12 May 2009 21:25:01 +0000 http://www.entropypua.com/blog/?p=983#comment-698 I've always viewed relationships as kind of an "open contract". As long as you were both getting exactly what you desired from the other person, you would always naturally return to each other...even after an interim where someone else seemed to provide something you couldn't at the time. If you provide value for each other you will naturally come back. And I think this model of a relationship is far more "romantic" (god, even using that word kinda makes me sick, but it was the first one that came to mind) because you are with each other not because you have a piece of paper or a ring on your finger that says you will....not because you have promised each other you will...but because you truly want to do so for your own reasons. I’ve always viewed relationships as kind of an “open contract”. As long as you were both getting exactly what you desired from the other person, you would always naturally return to each other…even after an interim where someone else seemed to provide something you couldn’t at the time. If you provide value for each other you will naturally come back.

And I think this model of a relationship is far more “romantic” (god, even using that word kinda makes me sick, but it was the first one that came to mind) because you are with each other not because you have a piece of paper or a ring on your finger that says you will….not because you have promised each other you will…but because you truly want to do so for your own reasons.

]]> By: Entropy http://www.entropypua.com/blog/dealing-with-jealousy/comment-page-1#comment-697 Entropy Tue, 12 May 2009 21:03:45 +0000 http://www.entropypua.com/blog/?p=983#comment-697 I have read "Anthem" although it was a long time ago (in high school sometime). I definitely agree with the idea of partners wanting to "possess" one another, and it doesn't gel with me at all. Again, I'm kind of an emotional libertarian in that sense. My girlfriend owes me NOTHING, and vice-versa. Neither of us are morally obligated to the other in any special way. Relationships should be more about honoring each other and each other's desires, drives, dreams, etc. I have read “Anthem” although it was a long time ago (in high school sometime).

I definitely agree with the idea of partners wanting to “possess” one another, and it doesn’t gel with me at all. Again, I’m kind of an emotional libertarian in that sense. My girlfriend owes me NOTHING, and vice-versa. Neither of us are morally obligated to the other in any special way. Relationships should be more about honoring each other and each other’s desires, drives, dreams, etc.

]]> By: Johnny http://www.entropypua.com/blog/dealing-with-jealousy/comment-page-1#comment-696 Johnny Tue, 12 May 2009 20:22:58 +0000 http://www.entropypua.com/blog/?p=983#comment-696 Hey Entropy, I remember seeing Atlas Shrugged on your book list awhile back. Have you read "Anthem" as well? It's a prototype for what eventually became Atlas Shrugged but I think one thing she expresses there more clearly than in AS is the desire for 2 partners to put an exclusive claim on the other, to fully and mutually possess the other. What are your thoughts on that desire to possess? Hey Entropy, I remember seeing Atlas Shrugged on your book list awhile back. Have you read “Anthem” as well? It’s a prototype for what eventually became Atlas Shrugged but I think one thing she expresses there more clearly than in AS is the desire for 2 partners to put an exclusive claim on the other, to fully and mutually possess the other.

What are your thoughts on that desire to possess?

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