At this point, after spending a significant amount of time in all of the major cities in the western world, and meeting a significant amount of the coaches from around the industry, something occurred to me. This occurred to me after going out in London — I was taken aback by their seeming worship of “posh” and how the pretension in their clubs revolving around status is probably only rivaled by LA.

And here’s what I noticed: look at all the guys who are insanely good from London (AFC Adam, Beckster, Extraction Tim) and all of them were/are top promoters, are socially networked out the ass, and play the social status card hard for big success.

By the same token, all of the great guys from New York City (Brad P, 60 Years of Challenge, Rob Judge) have styles that involves escalating extremely hard and fast. Brad P has his “blow me or blow me out,” as well as 20 minute bathroom pulls, 60 with his “escalation is attraction” and Rob Judge mauls girls with a startling amount success.

All of the “routine” methods of pick up (Love Systems, Mystery, Style, Mehow) all come from southern California. Much of the inner game only/authenticity styles of game (AMP, Sean Messenger, Pickup101) come out of San Francisco. Guys in Vegas — Nick Quick, Epik, Start Being — all shit on ideas of comfort game or inner game and focus on pumping the girl’s buying temperature — to which I say, well, no shit, you’re in Vegas. The coaches from Dallas a few years ago (Sinn, El Topo, Captain Jack) all focused on sexual framing and qualification.

I could go on and on… Even Vin DiCarlo and I (both from Boston) have a similar analytical style in which we calibrate our game around connecting with each woman’s specific personality. This also struck me, as being back in Boston… it just feels easy again. Like I’m unconsciously wired to pick up women in Boston and so I have to try 50% as hard here as other places.

There may be something to it. There may not. But food for thought.

1. Get Over Anxieties

- Social Anxiety: Approach regularly, relax into conversations, be able to build rapport consistently and easily.
- Sexual Anxiety: Be able to physically escalate, go for closes, talk sexually and fuck well.
- The only way to get over anxieties is by CONFRONTING THEM. People will use anything and everything to rationalize ways to avoid confronting their anxieties, the chief of which is inner game.

2. Balance Comfort and Attraction

- Attraction Heavy: A lot of guys are naturally attraction-heavy. They try too hard. They focus more on entertaining, joking, and excitement than actually connecting. They’re usually great at the first 5 minutes and bad at the rest. Girls flake on them constantly, give them tons of LMR, don’t stick around and are generally distrustful. These guys tend to have more sexual anxiety than social anxiety
- Comfort Heavy: Guys who are naturally comfort-heavy end up in the friend zone. They are more focused on connecting, building rapport, talking about life, experiences and genuine topics. They usually get blown out for being too boring and not expressive enough. They’re awful at the first 5 minutes but tend to be very good if a girl already likes them. They have trouble building attraction, but once they get it, girls rarely flake or give them LMR. These guys tend to have much more social anxiety than sexual anxiety.
- Balancing comfort and attraction is calibration. Every guy must learn to balance these two sides within themselves and also for each woman they talk to.
- Calibration is built through applying pick up theory through experience.

Side note: Most “naturals” are comfort-heavy guys who have some sort of natural attraction advantage. For instance, they’re good looking, in a rock band, nightclub promoter, etc. Their natural status or looks takes care of the attraction so they don’t ever have to.

Side note: Inner game is only useful inasmuch as it makes one aware of his anxieties and how to confront them.

That’s it.

First off, to clarify, I don’t mean luck IN SET, what I mean by luck is all of the external factors that influence chasing tail… all external factors are out of your control and are therefore random and considered “luck.” Go out and venues are dead? That’s out of your control and luck. Open a girl and her friend just puked and passed out? Luck. Opened another girl and she’s insanely horny and loves guys who look just like you? Luck.

I am arguing that the vast majority of factors in pick up are external, therefore the vast majority of picking up girls is luck. Again, your actual “game,” no matter how good or bad, probably only influences 20% of your chances with women… It’s not much, but it adds up VERY FAST over the long-term (20 lays a year versus 2, for example).

Game will always give you the best chance to capitalize on the situations presented to you… but short of throwing yourself into as many situations as possible, you have no control over which situations you’re given. And the majority of situations are not going to be stacked in your favor. In fact, the vast majority of situations, you’re going to have little to no chance… That’s what I mean when I say luck.

Even if a guy stands in a bar all night and waits for a girl who’s horny to approach him… he’s still surrendering the majority of control over his outcomes to luck. He’s basically hoping for a drunk, horny girl to show up. Most nights, she won’t. But every now and then, she will. And even if he escalates perfectly and fucks her in the bathroom, he’s only controlled a tiny minority of his outcome.

I have a question: can you set yourself up for luck? Like, screen like crazy for girls that are really horny and receptive to escalation (if you’re going for SNL, bathroom, whatever)?

Absolutely. It’s called pre-selection, and we all do it to varying degrees. We all tend to avoid sets that we think would yield a poor result — tons of guys, seated sets, large groups, etc. — and focus on sets that we think we have a higher probability with. Again, this varies from guy to guy, and you could argue it’s even a skill unto itself. These days, I can scan a venue and find women who look like they’d be very receptive, both to me and in general.

This is how you hear some of these stories like, “two nights in a row, it was one and done. I opened one girl and took her home.” This DOES happen. I’ve done it. But you walk into a large venue, find the easiest looking girl and approach her. Or sometimes, guys will hang out for a few hours waiting for an “opportunity” to pop up. Nothing wrong with this, I do this quite a bit when I’m with friends now… But it’s definitely pre-selection, and you’re leaving a lot of pussy on the table by only approaching the low-hanging-fruit.

I have a small question, do you drink when you go out to on the ‘field’?

Yes, no, and yes. I get asked this constantly. The answer is yes, I do drink. Although I rarely get hammered, or even that drunk when chasing girls. When I first started, I had to get very, very drunk to work up the nerve to approach. After some time, I decided to stop on the booze for a while. In some ways, it made me better, but I decided that I enjoyed myself more with a couple drinks. So I’m back to drinking again, but not as hard or as often. I often won’t drink while coaching though. And some nights I’ll go crazy with some friends. My Achilles’ Heel is if a girl starts buying me shots… then it’s all over. In more ways than one…

Should you drink? My answer is always, it’s up to you. But if you feel you HAVE TO drink when you go out, then you need to learn to go out sober. Once you can go out sober, then make the decision. Gaming sober is pretty different and has its advantages, so I think every guy should try it.

If you have health concerns, like you’re an athlete or something, and you can’t afford to drink every night (those calories add up REAL fast), then no, don’t drink when you go out. Maybe save it for the weekends or something and just do shots of Vodka or something if you really want to.

Why do you think outer game should be learned first? Do you think that a solid inner reframe can naturally allow things like body language and interaction skills to enhance?

Only if the guy already has those body language and interaction skills. Some do, many don’t. Let’s take an example of a student: he’s a smart, confident and successful business man who can be very dominant and commanding in proper business situations. Then yes, it’s about fixing his inner game around women. It’s just a matter of transferring his confident behavior from his professional contexts to his social contexts.

But if you have a student who has spent most of his life behind a computer, has had few to no friends, has always been shy and awkward — in every situation his entire life — getting him to “open up” and “express himself” is just going to make him continue to express his awkwardness. He never learned good body language habits or social skills initially, so there’s nothing TO open up to. RSD always talks about how game is just learning to be “unstifled.” Well, what if you don’t even have enough to be stifle with?

Outer game needs to be taught first because it gives you reference experiences in the context of women in which to develop the important inner game qualities. Again, a guy who runs around yelling, “MY GAME IS A 10!” between 15 blow outs isn’t reframing anything. He’s deluding himself and avoiding dealing with some very fundamental outer game issues. First, he needs to develop the basic outer game skills — get women to talk to him, get a few phone numbers, make a few friends — before he even has a chance to worry about things like confidence, state, etc.

The other reason outer game should always be taught first is that it’s so easy to fix. Inner game issues take months if not years to overcome, and wax and wane from day to day. Outer game stuff can be fixed immediately and results can be improved immediately. And honestly, NOBODY has perfect outer game, so there are always new things to be focusing on.

It just comes back to that every guy has a unique situation. These days, probably 1/2 of the guys who come into the community already naturally have most of their outer game stuff handled. That’s why you see such an inner game focus in general these days… that’s the way the market’s shifted and most of the new coaches these days only had to fix their inner game, so they assume that’s all anybody has to fix.

Things in life are almost never as clear cut as “All you need is X.” Pick up is no different.

How much of success is inner game and how much is outer game? A lot of people say all you need is inner game, which makes sense to me. What else do you say to a guy whose whole reality is “I’m bad with women?”

That he’s probably right and needs to fix some basic things about himself. Anyone who knows me knows that the whole “inner game only” trend drives me absolutely nutty because I think it’s wrong, wrong, wrong. A guy with bad outer game and great inner game will never get laid. A guy with great outer game and bad inner game will get laid all the time — he’ll just lay low quality girls and not be able to keep them around or be happy.

No matter how awesome the shit going on inside your head is, it’s just that: going on inside your head. All a woman ever experiences is your outer game.

If you want to change a guy’s reality that is “I’m bad with women,” then you change it by giving him good outer game first. Fixing your inner game is a luxury of those who already have outer game. I’ve never understood why having this reality is such a bad thing if the guy never gets girls. If you never get girls, then it’s true and you should face it. The problem begins when you meet a guy with 200+ lays who says the same thing: “I’m bad with women.” To have a newbie virgin deny this reality is just shooting himself in the foot. It reminds me of the RSD monkeys I’ve coached who walk around clubs shouting out, “MY GAME IS A 10!” in between getting blown out 11 times in a row… They’re not doing themselves any favors… just deluding themselves from the painful reality: they have a lot of work to do.

Also, second question: how much is just dumb luck? Every guy I talk to with a high lay count has a couple stories that are just lucky.

Or quite a lot of stories… the more experience I get, the more I realize how much is out of our control (And hers too sometimes) and is just dumb luck. I can usually judge a guy’s experience-level these days based on how aware he is of how much luck is involved. It’s always the guys who tell me with a straight face that they’re practicing cold approach threesomes, or that they’re currently working on their bathroom lay technique that I immediately assume have no idea what they’re doing but think they do because they have like 20 lays or something. There’s no technique… you just find a really fucking horny girl (the luck), escalate fast (the skill) and then drag her to the bathroom. She either goes with you or doesn’t… no technique involved.

For instance, when I first came into the community, I was sold on the idea (marketing) that we could control 90-100% of our fate with a certain girl. When I got out into field, I soon realized that was probably much more like 50%. After I banged a few dozen girls and had some ultra-wacky and crazy experiences under my belt, I realized it was a minority, probably 30%.

These days, I honestly think, even when you include all the inner game stuff, the social circle stuff, the lifestyle stuff, on top of all of the mechanics and techniques… we’re talking 20% control of our own fate with any particular girl — and that’s probably still a HUGELY generous estimate — come to South America some time and see how much control you have over the interactions…

Fact remains, the absolute best thing you can do to get laid or get girls, is to just go out and meet as many women in as many situations as possible. Everything you learn, study, practice, think about, etc. is completely supplementary. Give me an average guy will all the pick up theory and skills who goes out twice a week, and give me an average guy who is clueless and goes out five times a week, and the guy who goes out five times will (usually) have better results in the long-run… There are just far, far, far too many intangible and extraneous forces that you can’t learn about until you’ve been forced to face them. I think really the difference between a guy who’s amazing with women and a guy who isn’t is a 90% fail rate versus a 99% fail rate. It doesn’t sound like much, but over the course of 100 sets a month, it adds up very fast.

It’s only when you’re going out all the time that that 20% advantage theory gives you adds up over time. If you’re not putting yourself out there consistently, then there’s nothing anybody can do for you.

As always, field is king.

First of all… to anyone who has ever thought they’ve seen a big party, you haven’t seen shit. I’ve been to New Year’s Eve in Times Square, some of the biggest Halloween parties, 4th of July parades, etc. Nothing even came close. Mardi Gras? Please… Might as well be a Hallmark card.

Try to imagine this… 2.5 MILLION people partying and dancing in the streets. This is approximately 3-5 times the amount of people who show up for New Year’s Eve in Manhattan each year. It starts at about 3PM in the afternoon and doesn’t even begin to slow down until 5AM in the morning. Oh, and it goes for six straight days. The Brazilian equivalents of U2, Red Hot Chili Peppers, Coldplay, Lady Gaga, Beyonce, Jay-Z, The Rolling Stones and Kanye West are all doing outdoor public concerts at different points during the week. Everyone is drunk and everyone is dancing more or less non-stop.

Now, beyond this being almost humanly impossible (I’m still trying to figure out what it is about Brazilians that lets them shake their asses for so well and for so long without collapsing of exhaustion), it’s completely impractical. COMPLETELY impractical. And this is coming from a guy who regularly calls 10-day ventures to Las Vegas “business trips.”

(Technical point: I attended Carnaval in the northern city of Salvador. The difference here is that Carnaval in the southern cities is more about the parades, the costumes and the events. The ones in the north are about the parties and music. All of the tourists and gringos usually go to the ones in the south in Rio and Sao Paulo… the Brazilians all go to the ones in the north, in Salvador and Fortaleza… partly to get away from all of the tourists and gringos who have now taken over Rio with their fanny packs, disposable cameras, bad sunburns.)

So on to the interesting part… the picking up Brazilian girls:

1) Brazilians are obscenely aggressive. As my friend and travel companion put it, “What constitutes flirting here would probably get you arrested in parts of the US.” And that’s not really an exaggeration. Guys would regularly OPEN girls by trying to make out with them, pulling their hair, grabbing them and just dragging them away, etc. This was normal and constant. A particularly hot girl may literally get guys grabbing her and trying to kiss her every 2-3 minutes.

As for the women, they are extremely aggressive as well… if they like you. You know that little eye contact game that US and European girls play with you? Where they may look at you, but if you make eye contact, they look away and pretend they didn’t see you, because it might demonstrate too much interest?

Yeah, Brazilians don’t have that. If a girl is looking at you and you look at her, she will stare you down like you’re a goddamn steak and she hasn’t eaten in months. Sometimes they’ll grab you, grab your ass, caress you — I had one girl follow me for a few blocks and tell me in her horrible English, “You are beautiful man.”

Pretty awesome, right? Well… one thing is universal, and that’s that the chicks who really want you are rarely the ones you want. Not to say ALL of the girls who did this to me were ugly, but uhh… yeah, most of them were… some of them exceedingly so.

2) The idea that all Brazilians are ridiculously hot is a myth. This will probably end up being a post of its own, but I describe the hotness of women in foreign countries in two different ways: mean attractiveness and range of attractiveness. For instance, the US has a very wide range of attractiveness with its women (hideously ugly to total smoke show, often in the same club), whereas continental Europe has a pretty narrow range: most of them are somewhat fit and decent-looking, but it’s rare to see one that just blows your mind.

Brazil has an EXTREMELY wide range. I saw some of the most ridiculously hot girls I’ve seen in months while I was there. I also saw tons of disgustingly hideous creatures. So I don’t think there’s any single blanket statement you can throw over them, as they vary widely. They DO tend to have amazing asses, and they all seem to be born with the ability to shake them better than any white girl ever could. Which is always cool.

3) Making out in Brazil is akin to a handshake. I figured this out the second night I was there, and for about an hour, it was an extremely exciting discovery, but it actually ended up bumming me out.

In a crowded environment with tons of Brazilian girls, machinegun-making out with girls is actually pretty damn easy. You can rack up 2-3 an hour without a whole lot of effort. Just walk around, catch eyes with girls staring at you. If they’re cute, approach them, spit the 2-3 sentences you know in Portuguese, grab her and start making out. Once in a while they head turn you. But rarely. One immediately mentioned having sex somewhere after a mere minutes (didn’t happen; see below).

But the makeout thing is a double-edged sword. On the one hand, it’s fun because you can rack up like 12 makeouts in one night if you want. But on the other hand, since it’s so meaningless to them, it never leads anywhere. They almost always just kind of smile and walk away, not really caring either way what just happened.

4) Carnaval logistics are about as bad as they can possibly get. In a way, Carnaval is torture, because it presents you with literally an ENDLESS stream of hot Brazilian girls, for literally 12 hours a day for six days straight, but then offers more or less no possible way to pull them. The only exception I can think of is if you luck out and she knows English and you’re able to get her to invest in the interaction a bit, which I was never fortunate to stumble across.

With 2.5 million people in the streets, it’s unbearably packed in most streets. It’s impossible to move around and takes forever to get anywhere. Our apartment was literally a five minute walk from the parade route in daylight, but took 30-45 minutes to get there at night. Cabs are out of the question because of the crowd, and you constantly get separated from people because of the chaos.

Throw on top of that a SERIOUS language barrier and pushing anything further than about three minutes felt borderline impossible. And with so much mayhem and music going on, and little to no investment in you (making out means nothing, remember?), they get bored and scamper away.

“There is plenty of help for newbie. Where I see a lack of help is in the middle. If you can open, get numbers and even follow up, but you just aren’t able to get past that final hump and be successful with girls, where do you turn? The only advice I have seen is go open more sets, learn to calibrate and yet that is no magic bullet for a lot of guys. The other thing I hear is ‘hire a coach.’ But most of us don’t have that kind of money, or we’re not sure it’d be worth it.”

There are a couple reasons for this. First of all, it takes far longer for an intermediate guy to become advanced (1-2 years, if not more) than for a beginner to become intermediate (6 months or so). So because the transition is far longer, it’s much easier to get frustrated at a lack of development.

But another part of the problem is WHAT intermediate guys’ sticking points are. Beginners need to focus on the fundamentals, opening, good conversation, escalating, etc. This stuff is VERY easy to teach, and is very clear-cut, easy to measure, so it’s quite easy to learn for anyone who puts in the effort.

Intermediate guys almost ALWAYS fall into one of two categories of sticking points: lack of calibration/lack of experience or inner game issues.

Intermediate guys are basically guys who have the basic skills down, but they still don’t feel like they control their results, or get consistent results. This is either because they’re uncalibrated — i.e., they don’t know precisely when to use each skill or how much to use — or they have some sort of belief system that’s sabotaging them somehow or deep-seated emotional issue that’s preventing them from attaining their goals.

Unfortunately, the ways to fix these sticking points aren’t really anything you can find in any single forum post (unlike something like body language or fashion). Resolving these sticking points is often complicated and unique to each specific guy and his situation.

In the case of calibration, the solution is exactly what you complain about here: go out and do more sets and be mindful of what you’re doing and what works.

If that’s not working, then you have a blindspot within your beliefs and/or some sort of inner game issues going on. Generally, every time I meet a guy who is “decent” but is seeing no improvement over a long period of time despite going out consistently, 99% of the time it’s because of some sort of inner game blind spot.

Coaches can’t really help with the calibration issue other than to speed it up a little bit — and that’s assuming you do a one on one. It’s impossible to get that much personal attention on a bootcamp with 3-6 students. Whether accelerating your calibration ability for the $1250 or $2000 price tag or whatever is worth it to you is your decision. For some guys, shaving a year off their learning curve can be worth it. Others would rather go it alone.

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As for inner game issues, a coach CAN point those out to you, point out bad habits, point out faulty belief systems. The problem here actually tends to be YOU, not the coach. Guys with inner game sticking points, by their very nature, tend to be horrible at accepting advice and criticism. And I can tell you from vast personal experience, this can be one of the most frustrating situations imaginable. When a guy is paying you to tell him things about himself that he refuses to listen to… typically both of you coming out bitter about it and no one improves.

These days, I’m very wary of doing more than 1-2 phone consultations with someone with inner game issues. If they haven’t improved after that, I tell them to see a therapist and to take some time to themselves, as working with them further is like bashing my head against a wall.

But I hate to break it to you, but the truth is that there’s no *easy* way around any of this for the intermediate guy. If you go out a lot on your own, unless you’re very diligent, self-aware and perhaps naturally talented with people, progress will be slow and arduous.

A coach is no guarantee, and at the end of the day, they’re only going to accelerate your progress, not do it for you over night. Coaching newbies, you can often get magical “overnight” transformations. But for more intermediate guys, it’s more complicated. The most I can often do is point them in the right direction and give them proper encouragement. I often tell students that I can draw them a perfect map, and walk a while with them, but I can’t travel their entire journey.

There is ONE more thing that I’d offer to the struggling to the intermediate guy. I realize that most intermediate guys, having been active for 1-2 years, are familiar and adept at just about all of the theory out there.

Well, what helped me immensely coming up was actually reading the personal experiences and transformations of those better than me. When you see how other people overcome obstacles and barriers, it gives you new perspectives on how to overcome your own. On top of that, reading or hearing about other people’s sticking points can also give you insight into your own sticking points that you’re unaware of.

The author followed up with another post and lamented the following:
“It’s just unfortunate more of these advanced guys aren’t around to hand out free advice. Sometimes I don’t understand the unwillingness to help without a cash exchange.”

I can understand the frustration, but there’s an economical principle going on here. A lot of coaches offer TONS of free advice (just look at this blog), but we can’t personalize advice for EVERYONE, especially intermediate guys who have more unique and personal sticking points.

And that’s the unfortunate truth… Look, I’ll be honest, it takes about five times more effort to coach an intermediate guy than it does to coach a newbie. And at the end of the day, whereas it’s pretty easy for me to drop some free advice here and there for a new guy — it may take 5 minutes of my time and effort — handling some in-depth sticking point from a more experienced guy is something that requires enough time and effort from me that I won’t do it for free.

You combine that with the scarcity of able coaches (hell, half of the one’s that are paid don’t know what they’re doing), and you basically have a lack of any advice coming from the top which you speak about. Unfortunately, that’s just the way it is.

So I guess this is just an insanely long post to say that there’s no easy solution for intermediate guys. But that comes with the territory. The difference between an advanced guy and an intermediate guy is that the advanced guy’s game suits his personality. It’s unique to him.

Once you reach a certain point in this game, there’s no clear-cut, single “right way” to be extraordinarily good. So no matter what — whether you pay a coach or not — the majority of the responsibility and effort is going to fall back to you to achieve those goals.

That why the absolute best advice a guy in your situation can get, is the kind of advice that only happens face-to-face. You’re past the point of emulating somebody else or trying to fit yourself into someone else’s shoes. It’s time for someone to come take a look at you and help you to fit into your own shoes.

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Some highlights:

“The male brain on sex reacts similar to the way a cocaine addict’s does.”

“Your body now harbors 20 times the level of testosterone found in girls your age, which accounts for your sexual obsessions.
Unfortunately, your brain is maladapted for sociability, so she can overwhelm you with words, and all you have to counter them is silent (thank goodness) adolescent lust. It’s an advantage she has that you’ll never make up.”

“Guys with high levels were also 50 percent less likely to marry in the first place. Men with the least testosterone were more likely to get and stay married, maybe because lower testosterone levels make men more cooperative. If you’re too cooperative for your own good, build some muscle: It will increase testosterone levels over time.”

“Why you shouldn’t marry until you’re 25: Quite simply, a man’s brain is incomplete before then. Sure, his sexual organs are all present and accounted for, but his prefrontal cortex (PFC) is still developing. Which is too bad, because that’s the part of his brain that’s involved in judgment, impulse control, organization, planning, forethought, and learning from mistakes. And it won’t be fully developed until he’s 25.”

“Performance anxiety is about the fear of being judged or not living up to expectations. The body is programmed to see anxiety as a threat, and the nervous system sets up the fight-or-flight response, sending out chemicals to protect us: Our heart races, muscles tense, and blood is shunted from our hands, feet, and penis to the large muscles of the shoulders and hips so we can fight or run away. That’s not such a good strategy in bed, however.”

“Blame vasopressin. This hormone is involved in regulating sexual persistence, assertiveness, dominance, and territorial marking. And men have lots of it, naturally. In male voles (night-loving rodents, which probably describes you perfectly), the levels of vasopressin seem to make the difference between stay-at-home dads and one-night-stand artists. Your hormone levels are probably set at the genetics factory, but the more you give in to vasopressin, the more of it you produce. It’s your choice.”

‘Nuff said.

First off, love the blog. It’s a great resource.

Thanks in advance,
Xander

Yes, that’s 90+% on first dates. Unless you’re older (35 and up), I’d say you should be closing consistently at this rate. If you’re not, it means you’re not escalating quickly enough.

As for follow-up, it changes things in a couple ways. It creates more of a “relationship” frame versus a “fun hookup” frame. So she’s going to naturally want to take things more romantically, be more sensual and emotional about everything.

The biggest reason I tell guys to sleep with women on the first date is because once sex is out of the way, it gives everyone so much more leg-room as far as establishing the relationship moving forward. Expectations don’t get so built up. If a woman has sex with you, you KNOW she’s going to call back, whereas you can never be sure if you don’t.

If by chance you don’t hook up on the first date, I’ll contact her sooner than I would otherwise, as she’s not as invested in you yet. Typically I’ll always contact a woman after the first date with a text or something, and then schedule the next date after 3-5 days. If I don’t sleep with her, I may cut that down to 2-3 days.

Hey Entropy,

I just finished Man on Campus. It’s great. But I just recently transferred to a new school and will be coming in as a junior. How does this change the dynamic of my college game?

Nathan

Good question, and I can’t believe I didn’t address this in the course considering I was a transfer student in college.

When you transfer in, you have a big advantage and then a big disadvantage. The advantage is that you’re an upper classman, you have easier access to alcohol, probably have your own place, etc. So logistically you’re better off.

The disadvantage is that you don’t get the dorm experience, so you don’t have all of those insta-friends that underclassmen get when they first come in Freshman and/or sophomore year.

So I would just focus a lot more on meeting people through extra-curricular activities and classes. It may take a little more time, but considering your better logistical situation, it’ll pay off faster.

Check it out.