Connection, PUA Theory, Relationships, Stories - Sunday, August 30, 2009 18:08 - 8 Comments

Confusing Emotion with One-itis

Got a comment to my “break up” post the other day that kind of irked me.

“This article left my world shaking. Always thought PUAs wouldn’t suffer from oneitis any longer. Kinda strange reading this…”

Now, not to be hard on the poster, this is a common misconception within the community, and it personally drives me absolutely crazy. And that’s the confusion surrounding the idea of “one-itis,” and mistaking it for the same thing as feeling emotion for women.

First, let me define one-itis the best way I understand it. Then we can move forward from there. One-itis, is when a guy is afflicted with the belief that, “Woman X is the ONLY woman I can ever be happy with,” or “Woman X is the ONLY woman I’m meant to be with and we’re destined to be together one day,” or other beliefs in a similar vein.

These notions are pretty common amongst virgins with crushes on cute nerdy female friends, high school boys, and other emotionally stunted men.

One-itis beliefs OFTEN come up in the case of an ex-girlfriend or ex-wife who recently dumped or divorced us. Other times, it’s just some girl we’ve pined for forever and have been shot down from repeatedly.

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